The self trust reset
Ten minute values method to speak, lead, and decide with confidence
You’re smart. You’re capable. You’re respected.
Yet you still find yourself hesitating. Overthinking. Second-guessing.
This happens when you’re not leading from your core values — you’re leading from survival.
This ten-minute values method helps you
• get crystal clear on what actually matters
• make decisions without spiraling
• speak up with conviction
• create boundaries that feel clean and empowering
• show up as the woman you wish you were at work
This is the exact method I use inside Women Who Lead to help women trust their voice again — and it starts working within minutes.
Your values are not just words. They’re your compass.
In a world that constantly pulls you in different directions, your values are what bring you home.
They’re not about being “nice to have” — they’re how you choose, how you lead, how you live.
When you’re disconnected from your values, you start to override your own truth.
You say yes when you mean no.
You chase someone else’s idea of success.
You lose your sense of self in the name of being “good” or “liked” or “on track.”
This exercise is a reset.
A chance to listen inward. To name what matters.
To make decisions from alignment, not anxiety.
Because when you lead from your values, you don’t have to force it.
You already know who you are.
And you already know the way.
I didn’t always know what I valued.
For years, I made decisions by pushing through. Performing. Trying to do the “right” thing.
I ignored the signs.
The tight chest. The quiet voice. The constant sense that something was off.
Like many women, I thought I just had to keep going.
But when I finally paused — really paused — and got honest about what mattered to me, everything changed.
Here’s what started shifting for me when I aligned with my values:
- My nervous system softened
I stopped white-knuckling through work and started making choices that actually felt good in my body. - My clarity returned
Decisions became easier. I knew what to say yes to — and what to walk away from. - My energy rose
I wasn’t constantly drained. I felt energised by what I was doing, because it was mine. - My leadership deepened
I didn’t have to prove myself. I showed up with presence, integrity, and calm — and people felt it.
Are you ready to see the difference?
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Reclaim your energy. Reconnect with your values. Lead from your deepest power.
“Prior to joining Bloom I felt quite flat and deflated—like I didn’t have the right energy for work. I was moving through the motions, unsure of what I truly wanted.
This work helped me reconnect with my values and what’s genuinely meaningful to me. I gained not just energy, but a deeper sense of direction and purpose. Now I feel clear, focused, and motivated to move forward in a way that actually feels good.”
— Varsha Mistry, People Director, Pirum
“Before Bloom I was questioning everything—my career choices, my confidence, even what I stood for. Working with Ruth helped me uncover my values and strengths in a way I’d never done before.
That clarity has been transformational. I’m not just making decisions more easily, I’m making them from a place of alignment. For the first time in a long time, I feel like I’m living and leading as the fullest version of myself.”
— Kirsty Wilson, Consultant, ex BSkyB, NBC and Ogilvy
